I had big hopes for BlogHer this year. I had been before but this year the stakes were higher. I needed to network, I needed to come home inspired. On both counts, BlogHer turned out to be a mixed bag.
The participants
But first, the personalities, because that’s what you really want to hear about anyway, right? Author Stephanie Wilder-Taylor of the blog Baby on Bored won the Penelope Trunk Provacative Statements Award for encouraging us to lie about our blog traffic, among other things, in the blog-to-book session. Just tell them you have a million readers, she said. Publishers don’t know anything about blogs. Others were scandalized, but I was a little charmed by her freewheeling attitude. She’s got three books published and doesn’t let much get in her way.
The women on the humor writing panel – Wendi Aarons, Jessica Bern, Anna Lefler, the Bloggess Jenny Lawson and Kelcey Kintner – made this year’s BlogHer worth the price of admission.
There were some wonderful bloggers – both big fish and little – who were friendly and happy to meet people. Right off the bat, during the speed dating, I was impressed with the very tall Annie of PhD in Parenting and Deb of Deb on the Rocks – not only were they warm and genuine, but they remembered me as we bumped into each other throughout the conference. There were others – big fish and little – who only had eyes for the A-list bloggers. There were lots of groups of bloggers who kept to themselves, which I can understand. I didn’t go “with” a group of friends, but I would have probably done the same if I had.
I knew BlogHer would be what I made of it, and on that score I’d say I did about the best I could. I missed the parties Thursday night due to a combination of tardy luggage and a brief but scary episode that had me fearing I’d lose consciousness in the cab on the way to the hotel. I also called it an early night Saturday. But I put myself out there. I would have liked to have been more aggressive in that realm, but to do so would have been inorganic. I saw bloggers I recognized, but without a good a reason to approach, I worried I’d be fawning. And now after what I’m seeing on blogs and on Twitter, I’m glad I didn’t.
The conference
The sessions themselves were also hit or miss. I left Chicago on Sunday feeling much like I did in 2007: disappointed by the dearth of sessions on the craft of writing, creativity and content. You know, our currency as writers. The panels with the humor bloggers and the storytelling session Neil Kramer and Amy Turn Sharp led were packed. Maybe there should be less focus on stats and SEO optimization and the dirty work of blogging because, according to those who make the rules, we’re not supposed to be worrying about that anyway.
(During the humor panel, someone asked why BlogHer doesn’t have a humor column on its site. That needs to be rectified NOW. Follow and support the #blogherhumor campaign on Twitter.)
The incident
The entirely avoidable black spot on BlogHer came Friday night at the MamaPop party, and it cast a foul shadow on the rest of the weekend. Anna of abdpt has already written about the experience, and while I’ve seen a few Tweets about MamaPop “losing” RSVPs, I haven’t read another comprehensive account of what happened. I can’t say whether those bloggers simply didn’t care about being turned away from a sparsely attended party or if they are afraid to stir the pot, but not only can I confirm what Anna has wrote, I feel I must because I don’t want her to be the cheese standing alone in the blogosphere on this story.
I had RSVP’d for the party weeks before but when it came time to go, there were five of us assembled, four who hadn’t RSVP’d. Jozet of Halushki was at the door with a list. I don’t mention Halushki by name as a hint to pile on. She and Anna have shaken hands and made up both in Anna’s comments and on Twitter. We asked her what the deal was on those who hadn’t RSVP’d, whether they’d be admitted later, what about if they came in but didn’t drink? The answer was no. Just plain no. “Tracey said.”
So we went next door to another party, pretty steamed. One of us Tweeted, calling out @mamapop by name, musing about the velvet rope situation. Minutes later we heard they were letting anyone in. So we went, getting a huge eye roll as we passed the pearly gates. The ballroom still wasn’t even halfway full. Later I saw that the RSVP-only list was back in effect. Who knows why.
Like Anna, I don’t know the arrangements the MamaPop people made with either the Sheraton or the party’s sponsors. What I do know is that room had plenty of room for more. I understand the concern over, what if we admit people who haven’t RSVP’d and then the RSVPs show up and at that point we’re over capacity? Or, the more likely worry, that we’re out of liquor?
And this is where I condemn MamaPop’s elitist attitude toward the participants of the conference at large. The strict adherence to the RSVP list was a conscious choice to separate us from them. At a blogging conference, where the buzzwords are community and diversity. I refuse to believe that MamaPop isn’t like every other site out there, always with an eye on increasing traffic. This is no way to endear yourself to your readers.
A party’s always better when it’s packed. We own a restaurant and I know the psychology of crowds and entertainment. A full house holds the illusion of a good time, and very often a full house is all you need for a good time. No one wants to walk into an empty restaurant or a thinly attended party. Who cares if you run out of alcohol? There was a dance floor and a DJ playing “SexyBack” – for a whole lot of moms anxious over leaving their children, striking up conversations with writers who intimidate them, how much they weigh and what they’re wearing, it was all they needed.
MamaPop’s party was held in the same hotel as the conference, in the same hotel where most attendees were staying. While it wasn’t a BlogHer-sanctioned event, it wasn’t a private-invite affair like Nikon’s off-campus party. MamaPop had an obligation to admit everyone. And what about the RSVPs who might have showed up at midnight and wouldn’t get in? Too bad. You knew this clambake started at 9.
But instead of using the event as an opportunity to buy some good will among fellow bloggers and current and future readers MamaPop chose to stick to its self-imposed policy and hurt feelings in the process. Not only was this undemocratic, it was uncool.
I’ve seen via the comments on Anna’s blog (and others) and Twitter that the MamaPop editors are aware of this problem, but where’s the statement? Where’s the apology? Halushki and MamaPop contributor Snarky Amber have commented on Anna’s post, but where’s Sweetney?
I fully acknowledge that I was not as angry on Friday night as I became later in the weekend and into Monday. That’s for Part 2.
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abdpbt 07.28.09 at 11:51 pm
Thanks for this. You know that I agree. I have to assume that many people aren’t talking about it because they are afraid, and it seems like perhaps there is good reason to be afraid. Also, perhaps it wasn’t as infuriating to others, though that seems very unlikely. The other possibility, of course, is that people went in when they were finally allowed, had a good time, and sort of let the first part go. Which is fine, and good for them. But it doesn’t change the attitude, which was in effect the whole weekend IMO.
abdpbt´s last blog ..Give a Blogger Enough Velvet Rope And She Will Hang Herself: (Very) Extensive Notes on BlogHer 2009, Social Niceties, Social Media, and Branding The New Web Order
eliz 07.29.09 at 12:00 am
You bet that attitude was in effect the whole weekend. That’s what Part 2’s about.
Deb on the Rocks 07.29.09 at 12:02 am
I so much loved meeting you, and I agree that content and writing discussions were the highlights of the weekend. I’m glad you put Stephanie’s comments in perspective, as it was hard for me to hear–and you heard me disagree with–some of her recommendations. Of course anyone can check your blog stats! Lying isn’t a great tactic in business for 99.9% of people, and how the remainder sleep is up to them. But I am glad to be reminded that everyone is smart and savvy and can make up their own minds about any advice given–especially if the primary motive is to advance one’s own brand.
Deb on the Rocks´s last blog ..BlogHer 09: Everybody Let Go, We Can Make a Dancefloor, Just Like a Circus
Karen Sugarpants 07.29.09 at 12:29 am
Just came over from Anna’s blog. Okay so 4/5 of your party did not RSVP but expected to be let in?
I’m sorry – who do you all think you are?
Think about the planning – obviously the MamaPop people HAD to comply with fire codes and hotel regulations. Otherwise possible dangerous situations occur. I was diplomatic on Anna’s blog but holy crap – I had no idea 4 of you hadn’t RSVP’d.
“The strict adherence to the RSVP list was a conscious choice to separate us from them.”
WHAT?
I can’t believe you even bothered to blog about this. You all should have just brought babies to bars or something. *throws hands up* I’m done with this negativity.
p.s. I’m pretty sure I showed up after midnight, and it was not a problem. I’m seriously choking on all these assumptions. Unreal.
Karen Sugarpants´s last blog ..Four Minutes At BlogHer Changed My Life
Jozet at Halushki 07.29.09 at 12:44 am
I’m here via Anna’s Twitter.
First of all, I’ve been dog-piled before and I will probably be dog-piled again in the future. This time, I can sort of see how I’d deserve it. I didn’t handle the door situation very well, and was sort of tossed waaaaaaaaaaay out of my comfort zone in having to knowingly anger women who I had only wanted to meet at the door, check-off a name, and then finally join with at the party myself. I should have anticipated problems better. I’m sorry for my short answer and “Tracey said”. That was unfair to you, and also unfair to Tracey.
I’m a bit naive to the who-knows-whom in this world, and honestly just thought that people who were attending the party would know that Tracey meant Sweetney meant MamaPop. Hindsight tells me that it’s a ridiculous thing for me to have thought – since I myself don’t know all bloggers by their real/first name – and it only contributed to the “What the hell?” frustration that most people were already feeling. I suppose I meant to imply that the party planners (Mamapop) knew the hotel event rules (of which I wasn’t entirely aware), and so this wasn’t a decision I could make at the door contrary to that. I can see now that “Tracey said”, came across nothing like that. I’m not very quick-thinking on my feet, which is, I suppose, why I write.
Again, I’m sorry for being so brusque to you personally. From the very beginning of the line, there were people who said they had RSVPed or who wanted to bring in more people, and I was trying to have more respectful conversations, trying to explain, but then very quickly the line was getting longer and longer and people in back were getting angry for waiting. The changes back and forth from the RSVP to non-RSVP to non-RSVP but hold the drink ticket were being instructed at different times, I suppose, as crowd was filling-in or not…? I’m still not sure. Again, I could see people getting confused at being turned away and then for a short time people were just being let it….
Anyway, I suppose the gist of all this – apart from analyzing the social/political questions-at-large regarding the blogging community and how the community spirit can better be represented during all events of the weekend – is how to prevent it from happening next time. I do agree that there seems to be a bit of confusion when a private or RSVP-only party is held in the same conference center. One just can’t assume that everyone at BlogHer knew the RSVP deal, and telling them at the door or even beforehand was going to lead to some eyebrow raising at the very least. That problem is a bit alleviated if the event is “off campus”.
Again, I could see possibly having a small VIP list of close friends to make sure they get in…MamaPop writers and contributers, sponsors, Lisa Stone (for god sake who I didn’t recognize and also stopped at the door; talk about career ending.) But yes, an all access, “once we hit room capacity” would seem to be a better choice. The only outstanding concern I’d have is that party planner who offer food/drink would, I think, like to know how many people to expect so that food/drink isn’t purchased at not used. But event planning at this level including the etiquette and protocol is way out of my realm of expertise. I can’t speak to it.
Anyway, anyway…I’ll stop my lengthy replies. It’s only to try to repair any relationships – potential for relationships – I may have damaged. I’ve never been the “f*ck ‘em” type without good reason, and this party is not a good enough reason to give the high hat to anyone or to adopt an “I couldn’t help it and I don’t care what they think” attitude. Even if events were beyond my control, I want to apologize for contributing in any way to the black spot on your memories of BlogHer.
Jozet at Halushki´s last blog ..BlogHer 2009, Chicago
Jozet at Halushki 07.29.09 at 12:50 am
P.S. I’m totally on board with a Writer’s Lab Track (comparable to the Geek Lab) for next year. I think that improving writing skills is an ongoing process, and good writing makes for a good blog. I think a lot of women with great stories and valuable voices are possibly being discounted – even ridiculed at times – because they don’t have the writing chops, sometimes through no fault of their own. Good writing skills lower the velvet rope so that more women can tell their story.
Jozet at Halushki´s last blog ..BlogHer 2009, Chicago
abdpbt 07.29.09 at 12:58 am
@Jozet, I really don’t think you’ve damaged relationships or potential relationships. I really don’t see any bad feelings towards you in particular being harbored–certainly not for me.
and on other topics:
The problem with having intelligent arguments with people is everyone has to agree to read all of the posts before they comment. They also have to agree to disregard the name of the person making the comment as being any kind of reflection of the comment’s rhetorical strength. I cannot argue with people who just jump in to “defend” their friends. It’s pointless. I cannot argue somebody out of liking me more than someone else.
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Kerry 07.29.09 at 8:22 am
I didn’t go to BlogHer, so I wasn’t there for this. If I had, I wouldn’t have RSVPed, because I don’t read MamaPop so I wouldn’t have known to do so. I think only people who already read them would (which is why having a strict RSVP list is such an interesting strategy if you’re trying to attract new readers…but maybe they aren’t trying to attract new readers).
What I think is most interesting from a here’s-how-NOT-to-run-your-business perspective is the tweets I saw on Monday. Even if you think people absolutely should have RSVPed and totally should have understood the rules at the door, it’s clear that some people didn’t, and there are some pissed-off/upset/hurt Mamapop customers out there. Smart business take care of their customers (even if they secretly think their customers are idiots). Instead, I’ve seen tweets about how the leadership of this thing are “weeping from the awesome” and comments from defenders that make it clear that they think those who are upset are ninnies.
That’s a valid point of view to have…but imagine if Nikon had tweeted after their party about how they were “weeping from the awesome.” Imagine if they’d had employees going out on blogs defending their policy. Imagine if they’d left the poor door person out there alone, swinging in the breeze, apologizing all over the place with absolutely no backup. What would the hashtag be for that?
THIS is the thing that bugs me most about this—the utter lack of business sense. I’ve spent my entire adult life in corporate settings, so I tend to see these things from the perspective of corporate sponsors. I was in HR, so I hired thousands of people, and I know how hard I had to fight to convince some managers that women (and especially moms, and ESPECIALLY stay-at-home moms) could be smart businesspeople. There’s a perception that we’re ninnies, so when we act in the very ways that these people think we will, we reinforce that stereotype. When I’m reading about people who can or maybe can’t or can or can’t get into some velvet rope party, or people who (allegedly) gobbled up swag or threatened the Crocs guy or went around snubbing one another like something out of Mean Girls…well, that’s not helpful.
I keep reading that mommybloggers want to be taken seriously as business people Great. But to do that, you have to act like business people. That means you stop weeping from the awesome and start running your business like a business. That means you take care of ALL of your customers (even if you secretly think they’re morons who should have RSVPed). That means you don’t leave the door person as the fall girl. That means you do all of these things the very next day, without waiting for the blogosphere to spend the week talking smack about you. This is pretty much Business 101.
You expect this from Nikon, from Motrin…why doesn’t apply to your business?
Kerry´s last blog ..6 Things I’ve Been Meaning to Tell You About
eliz 07.29.09 at 8:33 am
Karen, yes, four of us hadn’t RSVP’d. But they were turned away from a pretty empty-looking party. It felt shitty, is all. You can understand that, right?
Kerry 07.29.09 at 8:48 am
Oh, totally. If I’d gone, I’d have gone with you, and been the 5th who hadn’t RSVPed. I wouldn’t have known I had to, because I’m not a current reader of MamaPop.
But my thing is, even if they still think they’re right, they STILL need to handle it like a business. You don’t get to say “fuck you” to customers, even when you really want to…or rather, you can, but then don’t be surprised when people don’t take you seriously as a businessperson.
(I can say “fuck” here, right?)
eliz 07.29.09 at 9:04 am
Jozet, thank you for your thoughtful response. I was serious when I said I did not want you to be the target of all the party venom. (But it’s a little ironic. Since you’re the only one from MamaPop commenting, it does put you right in the line of fire, doesn’t it?) I imagine lots of people who were turned away don’t read MamaPop, hadn’t RSVP’d but simply saw there was a party in the hotel and assumed they could walk on in. I’m sure there were logistics to putting a party together that you couldn’t foresee. And I do sympathize that you had to take the brunt of it all, right there at the party. You’re braver than I’d be, to come here and comment.
I don’t think you damaged relationships, at least not as far as I’m concerned. I simply wanted to give my account of what happened. And yeah, the party was a black spot, but I don’t hold you personally responsible. In fact, the party was only the tip of the iceberg of the (as Karen said) negativity to come.
eliz 07.29.09 at 9:07 am
Absolutely, Kerry. In fact, when people don’t use “fuck” enough in their comments, I just edit them in. I am surprised not to hear an official word from the party organizers, but perhaps the “right” people aren’t complaining. Who knows.
eliz 07.29.09 at 9:10 am
Jozet, I know, it’s crazy how the writing seems to have gotten lost amid all the other topics, isn’t it? I think a writing track would be the best way to let bloggers (and the world at large, who will only hear about how a bunch of women went nuts in Chicago over a bag of freebies) know how seriously they should take the business of blogging.
Kerry 07.29.09 at 9:13 am
The “right” people are, or should be, “any people who are customers or potential customers of the product (MamaPop) or its sponsors” So that’s all of us.
Also, Jozet, I don’t think you’ve damaged relationships. In fact, I’m pretty impressed with how you’ve handled this all by yourself. You’re like that one lone airline employee who gracefully handles all of the pissed off customers when the airline does something dumb (only to make that analogy work, we’d need the airline to tweet about “weeping from the awesome” of the flight while you were simultaneously handling all of the pissed-off customers…and even really bad airlines don’t do that, or they’d get skewered in the blogosphere. Oh, wait…)
Kerry´s last blog ..6 Things I’ve Been Meaning to Tell You About
eliz 07.29.09 at 9:21 am
I don’t know why these replies aren’t threading. It’s making it very hard to read, no?
abdpbt 07.29.09 at 9:24 am
Those are great points, Kerry. I hadn’t even considered to look at it like how Nikon would have handled it, and you are totally right. IF this is going to be a business, then something has to be done differently. Sure, it’s a new form of business and we’re all learning, but we can certainly learn from the people who have gone before us–we expect them to know how to deal with us, after all.
Some businesses succeed and others fail. This is true in the blogosphere as well.
abdpbt´s last blog ..Missives From The Lost Weekend, Boys Without BlogHer 2009
abdpbt 07.29.09 at 9:25 am
And yeah, I am so impressed with Jozet through this whole thing. I’m glad that this has allowed me to meet her, even if it wasn’t the most graceful of introductions.
And sorry for directing people over here, Eliz, to say, in effect, “how DARE you?”
abdpbt´s last blog ..Missives From The Lost Weekend, Boys Without BlogHer 2009
eliz 07.29.09 at 9:28 am
Kerry, your first comment is spot on. (Why aren’t these replies THREADING?? I’m weeping from the lack of threading.) We’re supposed to accede that this party and the site is a business – that they had policies and that the organizers had to follow regulations of the hotel and the agreements they made with their sponsors – but behind the scenes it’s treated with all the tact of a clique. It makes it hard for any of us to be taken seriously.
eliz 07.29.09 at 9:31 am
Anna, I know – it makes me want to take Jozet out to lunch. Jozet’s been admirable throughout. And don’t worry about directing people here. I wrote what I felt was an honest account. Not to back you up but to independently air my thoughts.
Charlotte 07.29.09 at 10:11 am
As someone who is new to blogging and who lives an hour and a half from Chicago, I seriously considered going to this conference.
Glad I didn’t. Everything I know about women “working with” other women apears to have been confirmed by what I’m reading here. Jealousies. Pettiness. Fawning. Mean Girls, etc., etc., etc. Add in the usual aspect of human nature where popularity (blog stats, public visibility, red carpet bloggers, etc.) is concerned and you’ve got a volatile mix. Not to mention (and sorry, this is my bias) the fact that so many lefty, lesbian, vegan type bloggers are held up as the pinnacle of important subject matter these days.
Sounds like one big women’s high school, complete with cliques and the in/out groups. And not a high school reunion – where people have supposedly grown up – it sounds like high school, period.
That said, looking forward to reading more about what happened.
Charlotte´s last blog ..The Wound in Jesus’ Shoulder (Cecilia’s Stash)
Kerry 07.29.09 at 10:17 am
Charlotte—we’re probably neighbors. I live in Milwaukee.
I actually feel like the mommyblogosphere is mostly righty, super-Christian moms who would hate me (although that’s not the reason I didn’t go). Goes to show that you can be on either side and feel left out.
Kerry´s last blog ..6 Things I’ve Been Meaning to Tell You About
Wendi 07.29.09 at 11:17 am
Thanks so much for mentioning our panel! I just hope I didn’t have any visible sweat rings. Then I consider it a success!
Sorry to hear about the party mishap. I didn’t even know they were having one…
Wendi´s last blog ..The Bored Game
Elisabeth 07.29.09 at 11:27 am
I agree with Charlotte. Give me a break. I have been coming to these blogs as a nice break during my day…to read a funny antidote, take my mind off the demands of life for a moment. After reading the accounts of the “hardships” that these women had to go through at a conference I am about ready to erase the subscriptions that I have to these mommybloggers websites. Really–this is a big deal??? You all must be living in the lap of luxury if this is all you have to bitch about. Maybe it’s time you sat down and did some research on WWII or some other serious subject to get youself some perspective.
I’m sorry, I really don’t mean to sound harsh…this comment isn’t directed specifically at you…your entry just happened to be the one that “broke the camel’s back” in regard to this subject.
eliz 07.29.09 at 1:55 pm
Elisabeth, I agree that the post-BlogHer furor probably sounds out of hand to someone who didn’t attend the conference. It sounds out of hand to a lot of us who did attend, too. But, WWII? And no, BlogHer is not all I have to bitch about. I’ve got some pretty serious troubles right now. How much sense would it make if I were to say that YOU must have a posh, carefree life if you’re here giving me a dose of perspective? (See? It works both ways.) I was at a conference this weekend so that’s what’s on my mind right now.
eliz 07.29.09 at 1:55 pm
Thanks again, Wendi. Great panel.
eliz 07.29.09 at 2:03 pm
Hey, Charlotte. I know all these posts coming fast and furious the past few days sound like all we have is vitriol for our fellow women bloggers and the entire community, but there were some very cool aspects of BlogHer. There were some hurt feelings and a few elbows thrown in grabs for swag, but it’s really an amazing event. What we’re witnessing now is growing pains, I think. Blogging as a business and a movement has grown to the point where now we have to sort out the rules and ethics of it all. The blogosphere is much more diverse than it was a few years ago, which means it’s no longer a small community of like-minded women. Thus, differing viewpoints and potential for conflict. And how do we women bloggers make sense of what we’ve just experienced? We WRITE about it, which means the insults, offenses and perceived slights are way amplified. Also, the whole world gets to read about our mud-slinging. We probably aren’t helping our cause at all my writing about it. But, you know what, this too shall pass and hopefully all we’ll remember when it comes time for BlogHer next year are the lessons we’ve learned.
(Did that sounds too new agey? Feel free to unsubscribe if it did.)
Elisabeth 07.29.09 at 3:50 pm
No, I’m sorry. I had just gotten to the office and was trying to decompress from my 1.5 hour commute…and usually I like to go on google reader and take a few moments to relax, reading before I dive into the stresses of work. So this entry (after yesterday reading about it on other peoples blogs) just smacked me in the face and without thinking I left a comment.
Truthfully, I enjoy your blog and I know that you aren’t living a posh, carefree life. I am going to pare down my subscriptions but I always enjoy your entries and want to continue reading.
eliz 07.29.09 at 5:14 pm
Don’t apologize, Elisabeth. Glad to have you here.
jessica 07.31.09 at 11:43 am
thank you so much for the wonderful compliment. It means a lot. I say this often but for me personally, to feel that I did something well, something that I take to heart, and then to be validated for it, is something that will always mean a lot to me so again, thank you. .
Jenny, Bloggess 08.01.09 at 11:47 am
I’m so glad you enjoyed the panel! It was terrifying.
Also, a bunch of my friends couldn’t get into the MamaPop party either so I stuck my head in for five minutes to say hi and see the unicorn cake and then we all just went next door to the Mommy Needs a Cocktail party and drank from the chocolate fountain for a few hours. The thing I loved about blogher this year is that there were so many parties that even when I wasn’t allowed into one there was usually another one going on that was just as awesome. I didn’t RSVP for BowlHer so I didn’t go but I ended up finding a few people I’d never met before and just having an impromptu room party. Impromptu room parties with strangers are always the best parties.
Jenny, Bloggess´s last blog ..You win this round, neighborhood watch program.
Condo Blues 08.04.09 at 10:06 pm
This was my first BlogHer. I’m seeing a damned if you do damned if you don’t attitude when it comes to the RSVP parties. The People’s Party on Thursday took RSVPs and ignored the list. When the doors opened there was a huge rush of people wanting swag bags and drink tickets and a baby was elbowed in the face. There were so many people at the room couldn’t hold them all. People complained.
Saturday night the MamaPop party adheres to their RSVP list. There’s no stampede, no one gets elbowed. People who didn’t RSVP to the party, aren’t on the list complain of it being elite when there were lists of the parties on Kirsty, BlogHer, and another personal blog I can’t remember. That’s how I found out about these parties and RSVP’ed because I don’t read MomaPop, etc. either.
It seems like either way you go with the RSVP situation, you’re going to make people and the Twitterese unhappy.
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